Me First or Team First?

All four of my kids played recreational sports while also playing on club teams. That dynamic continued through high school. There were clearly pluses and minuses to both. But as youth sports trends toward more involvement in travel leagues, there is one important factor to consider.

It is likely that everyone reading this, to some degree, is involved in youth sports. And it is also likely that the lessons children acquire by participating are among the major reasons we want our kids to play. We love that they learn that hard work leads to success, that failure is temporary and can be overcome with effort and resilience. Both of these can be taught to players in recreational as well as competitive sports. So, if this is true, that the essentials of work ethic and bouncing back from adversity are learned in either environment, what difference does it make which path is chosen?

As I said, my kids played both. My daughter played rec and high school soccer, as well as club. It was the club soccer that got her a college scholarship. My three boys played Little League (with me as coach) and high school baseball, while simultaneously playing travel ball. Here was the big difference between the two: In competitive sports no one really cared about winning. In rec and high school, that is all they cared about.

I’ll start with my daughter: When her high school career came to an end with a playoff loss, she was inconsolable. Her school had never won a city girls soccer title and she wanted it more than I can describe. A championship would have been huge news to the entire school. There would be a banner hanging in the gym forever. Her regular league games against our bigger, rival school just a couple miles down the road were wars. She would have traded her best personal game ever for a team win.

Contrast that with her club team. It was a very good team which several times went to national playoffs with a chance to win a U.S. championship. And all the girls would have liked to have won. But winning was secondary. Because they all also knew that scouts from every major college were watching. Each of them would have rather scored a spectacular goal in a losing cause than play poorly and win. It was twenty individuals wearing the same jersey. And they knew that outside of themselves and their parents, no one else would know or care whether they finished as national champs or also-rans.

As I mentioned, I coached my three boys in Little League. We had a great league, and all of my sons’ friends also played. Every year the talk in the schoolyard was about who was going to win the championship. The players on the team that had won the previous season had bragging rights. It didn’t matter if you were a star or a part-time player, you wanted to be able to say, “we beat you.”

My oldest son, now a pro baseball player, has coached some travel baseball in the off-season and says he thinks travel ball is killing the sport. In his observation, none of the kids want to be out there. No one cares if they win or lose. When my second son, now also in the pro ranks, heard this he confided that he used to hate our travel ball games when he was young. He said he never would have admitted it then, but he always dreaded them. Why would this be? A Little League game on Saturday against his friends from school, the most fun he ever had. Then a club game on Sunday against guys he didn’t know, he wished he didn’t have to go. They were both baseball games. But they were different.

So my contention is this: While there are many benefits to travel sports, where it lacks is in the teaching of some of the most important lessons learned in athletics: Teamwork. Putting the good of the team ahead of yourself. And winning.

Now a cynic might say he doesn’t care about any of these things if his kid gets a scholarship to play in college. But are we shortchanging our youngsters in life by thinking short-term? Are we robbing them of valuable experience by taking them out of youth league baseball and softball in favor of travel, or by having them play Academy soccer instead of high school?

Are we raising a generation of kids who are going to learn that they should look out for themselves first and others later, if at all? Are we bringing up children who will never know what it is like to really be part of a team that is all pulling for a common goal instead of individual accomplishment? Teamwork isn’t just about sports. It’s about getting along with friends and family, about being successful in the workplace years after athletic careers are over. When will those lessons be learned if not on the youth play fields?

Years ago I read an article in the Los Angeles Times sports section about the number of kids opting for travel baseball instead of high school. There was a quote from the USC head baseball coach that I’ll paraphrase which was, ‘I like kids who play high school because they care about winning.’ Even the worst cynic who isn’t concerned about his children being taught teamwork and self sacrifice would probably want them to learn to win. Sports have always had an important place in our society, for good reason. But when team sports really just become individual sports being played by a bunch of youngsters at the same time, I wonder if what is gained isn’t outweighed by what we’ve lost.

Brian Gotta is a former youth baseball coach and volunteer Little League board member. He is the President of CoachDeck and also author of four youth sports novels and a baseball coaching book which can be found at www.booksbygotta.com. He can be reached at brian@coachdeck.com

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5 Responses

  1. Great perspective. Our kids are not middle school aged yet, however we have chosen travel ball over rec. We feel they are getting better skills development and competition there. While I agree with your insight, our kids are learning to be good teammates and not worry about individual stats. Part of that is that they play for our community, not a club team that is formed from kids from all over. Community pride is an amazing driver. Our end goal for exposing our kids to travel now, is the hope they make the high school team in the future. Again, community pride. We would never want our kids to just play club and not high school, I agree they would be missing out on a lot! Thank you for posting this!

  2. The only way to get to the next level in sports is to dominate, which is sad sometimes.

  3. Spot on, Coach Gotta

  4. I respectfully disagree with your view of recreational sports and high school vs club ball, at least where I live. Unfortunately in Alaska, with recreational sports the vast majority of coaches lack the education to teach kids the correct techniques and strategies etc. What this does is develops bad habits and sets kids that may at some point want to play at a higher level up for disappointment and failure when attempting to make their high school or local club teams. I can attest to this where I live and coach because I see it every season. I coach a number of teams in a number of different age groups from 11u to high school and a very high level travel team and I can tell you beyond a shadow of a doubt that the kids that travel are not only loving every experience they are getting but they are also getting a much better education about life lessons as well. The majority of these kids are going out into their young adulthood much better prepared for the adversity that comes their way at college and in life in general.

    I do believe that recreational sports has it’s place and is great for giving kids the opportunity to try on a new sport, to meet other kids, and to be physically active, but to say it’s a better avenue to teach valuable life lessons etc. is, in my opinion, simply backwards.

    • Thanks for your comment. I do not know what the makeup of rec and club sports is in Alaska, and maybe it is different there than in other states. Two things I’d point out about my article….I did not say that certain lessons are not taught in travel sports, I maintained that some were not as prevalent. I am also not calling for a abolishment of travel — my kids all played travel sports also — but I am not a fan of taking kids out of rec sports in favor of travel. It seems reasonable to me to allow them to play, say, rec baseball in the spring, and then travel the rest of the year if desired.

      But what is interesting about your comment is that the main argument you put forth regards the quality of competition and coaching. Again, I did not try to argue that the competition is better in rec sports, I maintained that the experience is. Yes, if the only thing that matters is that players improve so that they can go to the “next level” (as little kids), then put them in the most competitive environment possible. However, what I was trying to assert, unsuccessfully it appears, is that getting young kids better at sports is not solely what sports is about.

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