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So What if Everybody Gets a Trophy?

By Brian Gotta, President of CoachDeck

Anyone following youth sports has noticed a groundswell of sarcasm and criticism online and in the media about leagues that give out trophies to every kid, just for playing. The general consensus seems to be that this teaches them the poor lesson that they will be rewarded even if they didn’t earn anything. My thought is that we’re focusing on the wrong thing.

I’ve seen at least one viral video of a professional athlete walking with his daughter who has just finished her soccer game and throwing the trophy she was given in the trash. The video was touted as an exemplary piece of parenting. Thousands of views, shares and comments applaud this man, who is obviously physically and mentally stronger than all of us, for showing us how to raise strong children. The phrase “Participation Trophy” has become a pejorative. “Give everyone a ribbon” is a political insult.

As I’m writing this, I wonder what kind of impact this has all had on the trophy industry.

I don’t care if you don’t want to give trophies out to little kids. I don’t happen to think its a big deal. If the children are 5, 6, 7 or 8 years old should we really be focusing on winning and championships? At that age a trophy is not an award for athletic achievement, it’s a memento – a souvenir. My kids got dozens of little trophies for playing various sports when they were young. They liked to put them on their shelf in their room and collect them through the years. They would occasionally point them out to me and ask me if I remembered that team. It was nice. And as for making them weak, all four of my kids went on to play sports collegiality. Two of them are now pros. I don’t think handing them a small faux marble base with a gold plastic statue on top when they were nine did any long-term damage to their psyches.

And yet I will watch tee ball games where a player fields a batted ball, actually throws it to first, the tiny first baseman actually catches it and puts his foot on the base before the runner gets there and….the runner is allowed to stay at first base anyway. The parents are afraid the batter will be devastated if he is the only one who gets called out. What kind of lesson does that teach every player on both teams? Even if the child is upset, can’t we use that as a moment to explain that he did a great job hitting the ball but sometimes when you do your best it still isn’t good enough? That we should respect our opponent and congratulate them on their achievement? That we can use setbacks to motivate us to do better next time? But that would take more work than just letting him stay on base.

One season when I coached pee-wee basketball I spent all my preseason practices teaching my team to do the one thing that was most difficult for them: To dribble and pass the ball so as to move it up the court without traveling. Then, at the first game, the players on the other team are picking up the ball and straight running it down the court, maybe bouncing it one time, and throwing it in the hoop. I asked the referees to actually enforce the rules and call traveling when it occurred. This was not so my team could win, in fact I requested that they let the other players keep the ball. I just wanted the officials to explain to these kids that they had to dribble the ball so they would learn something their coach had obviously not taken the time to teach them. And so that my players would not witness their opponent breaking the rules and gaining an advantage without consequences. So that my team could see the value of the work we did at practice. But this league didn’t think that was important, and no whistles were blown.

Our society seems to want to grab onto the easiest thing it can find…to support, to blame; because that takes much less effort than actually digging in and teaching, learning, doing work, making progress. So the problem with kids and youth sports today is that “everybody gets a trophy”. Doesn’t that strike you as being a little too simple of an explanation?

Brian Gotta is a former youth baseball coach and volunteer Little League board member. He is the President of CoachDeck and also author of four youth sports novels and a baseball coaching book which can be found at www.booksbygotta.com. He can be reached at brian@coachdeck.com

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Big Money in Youth Sports

By Brian Gotta, President of CoachDeck

It is billed as “the premier sports vacation destination, catering to the travel sports family lifestyle”. Is this a lifestyle? As someone who had four kids play travel sports, who substituted typical family vacations for out-of-state youth sports tournaments, I guess I have to admit it is. But looking at this place I wonder how far we’ll go.

It could be anywhere in the country and if you view the website’s slow-motion fly over of the baseball diamonds, stadiums really, four joined in a perfect north, south, east, west axis, you can’t help but be impressed. Maybe even a little intimidated. Fields for softball, soccer, football are nearby. The facility is home to several restaurants, hotels, gymnasium and aquatic facilities. And more.

The site offers corporate naming rights opportunities. And advertises itself as the place where the best amateur baseball, softball and soccer in the country are played. ‘Scouts and recruiters will be able to view each field from one of our state-of-the-art scouting towers, located at the center of each quad. The scouting towers feature live video feeds from every field so pro and college scouts will not miss a single minute. With pro and college scouts at every major tournament, next-level dreams are realized here. Our tournaments and showcases attract the top talent in America.’

Clearly, there is a market for this kind of high-profile, high-intensity tournament play. And I’m sure all of my kids would have thought it a dream-come-true to compete in a facility like this one. For many, it will probably be a positive, once-in-a-lifetime experience – something they’ll never forget.

And if the venue itself leads to more kids playing a sport outdoors, there is no downside. But I wonder if even more hype and more money equals more pressure. And are some kids backing away from sports because of too much pressure? Do some parents and coaches want this type of environment more than the kids do?

In today’s world, high school basketball and football games are being telecast nationwide. Eighth graders are committing to major universities in those sports and not long after in others. None of this would have been imaginable twenty-five years ago. What else is in store in the next quarter-century?

As parents and coaches it is important we provide the equilibrium for our children. We must be sure we aren’t pushing youngsters into situations they’re not ready for, and are continuing to emphasize things like fun, skill improvement, teamwork and camaraderie.

There are certainly players who, even at a young age, thrive on pressure and intense competition. They dream of playing at the highest level and can’t get enough travel, tournaments and big games. To them, that is what’s most fun. And there are other kids who would rather play in a rec youth league game and then hang out with friends after. While our culture seems to be evolving to cater to athletes in the first group, here’s hoping there will still always still be room for kids in the other one.

Brian Gotta is a former professional youth baseball coach and current volunteer Little League coach and board member. He is the President of CoachDeck and also author of four youth sports novels which can be found at www.booksbygotta.com. He can be reached at brian@coachdeck.com