Even more comments on “Everyone Calm Down”

Emails continue to come in from readers who appreciated our article, Everyone Calm Down in the January OnDeck Newsletter. A sports mom writes:

Thank you!

Dear Brian,

Thank you for this amazing article and reality check! As a parent of an 8 year old boy (involved in sports), I appreciate this reality check, and putting into words the guilt that I often feel after a game!

I am keeping this article as a reminder of how to behave, and the impact it has on my son!

More reaction to “Everyone Calm Down”

Emails and comments continue to come in from our article, Everyone Calm Down. Here is a note from a former competitive soccer player who has two girls who play and referee, along with our response:

Beautifully written!  I’m a retired very competitive soccer player with two daughters 18 and 15 – both play and also referee. Nothing makes me more scared than parents yelling at them. 😦
That you for writing this. 



Thanks, Michelle. I’m sure they’re tough girls!

Reaction to “Everyone Calm Down”

Our article in yesterday’s OnDeck Newsletter, Everyone Calm Down, has caused quite a stir. Below is an email we received from a coach who brings up an important point relative to these situations, and our response:


I’ve been coaching for 14 years, the last 6 in club.

I have learned to solve this issue at the source….that is, parents need to learn very early on that they are a match set with their kids. I would not have that parent on my sideline, and if necessary their child on my team.

In other words, I see this as a Coach’s responsibility to quash this behavior.  Especially early on in a players career when their parents may be learning how to be the parent of an athletes.  You tend to see a whole lot more of this abhorrent behavior at younger matches, than olders (where parents have been to a few hundred matches, versus 5 or 6).

This poor kids career is probably over before it starts as he will not have fun, and will not keep playing just to avoid Dad.  Very sad.

Good article though!

Our response:

Thanks for the note. There is no question, I didn’t put this in the article, but I actually waited that day in the parking lot for the coach because I wanted to let him know he needed to get control of this group of ridiculous parents. They were all swarming around him chatting and I didn’t have time to wait around, so I left. The problem, I theorized, was that this is an affluent area with some very well-off parents, and the coach appeared to be in his early 20’s. My guess is he’s intimidated and doesn’t feel comfortable telling them to shut up. I was hoping to explain to him that he should absolutely take charge and get them in check.

January, 2014 OnDeck Newsletter

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